Online dating can be wild, especially when the reality of meeting someone doesn’t quite match their profile pic. We’ve all seen it: the carefully crafted photos that look like they were taken by a professional photographer or a Hollywood stylist. But when you meet in person, you may wonder if you’ve been catfished or if a time machine was involved. Let’s break down the common “profile pic lies” that can leave you feeling confused and disappointed. These examples are depicted by Rocci Jackson in her latest book Ghosts, Texts, and Exes.
The “Group Photo” Gamble
One of the biggest profile photo blunders is the group shot. You’re scrolling through profiles when suddenly, you’re presented with a picture of five people at a wedding or party. You have to play detective just to figure out who you’re actually looking at. If it takes more than a couple of swipes to spot them, it’s a red flag. A good rule of thumb? Stick to solo shots that clearly show who you are.
The “Bear Grylls” Action Shot
Some people love to show off their adventurous side, but when every photo is an action-packed shot—skiing, hiking, or fishing—it starts to feel a little much. While it’s great that you’re outdoorsy, it’s hard to believe you’re anything other than a survival expert. It’s okay to have a balance; you don’t need to climb Mount Everest on our first date.
The “Themed Party” Overload
Costume photos can be fun, but when every picture features you in an elaborate disguise, it can feel like you’re hiding your true self. One or two costume photos might be cute, but if your entire profile looks like a ‘70s disco fever dream, it might be time to tone it down.
The “10 Years Ago” Snap
Some people post pictures that are clearly outdated, trying to relive their glory days. Maybe it was a time when you had more hair, fewer wrinkles, or were a bit more toned, but if your photo was taken a decade ago, don’t be surprised if it leads to disappointment. Age is part of the journey—embrace it.
The Sunglasses and Hat Brigade
If you never show your face without sunglasses or a hat, it can be a red flag. What are you hiding? When you finally meet in person, it’s a gamble—will they look totally different without the shades, or will they be just as mysterious as before?
The Professional Photoshoot
A profile filled with overly polished, professional photos can come across as pretentious or fake. While one or two well-shot images are fine, when every picture looks like a modeling portfolio, it might make you wonder if they’re trying to impress or just don’t know how to relax.
At the end of the day, online dating is about being honest and authentic. Sure, we all want to look our best, but exaggerated or misleading photos will only set the stage for disappointment. Instead of trying to be someone you’re not, aim to show your true self. You’ll attract people who appreciate you for who you are.
For a deeper dive into the ups and downs of online dating, check out Rocci Jackson’s Ghosts, Texts, and Exes, available on Amazon. It’s packed with wisdom to help you navigate the dating scene with confidence. Online dating is a marathon, not a sprint. Stay patient, and remember, the adventure is part of the fun!
